What is love? Is hatred the opposite of love? Am just wondering here lonely and silent. Does when love ends hatred takes control? Sometimes I see lovers breaking and divorcing each other with a smile on their face and I wonder are they pretending to be happy? Or are they happy for what they gained from their lover? Or is it because their lover were trouble and nuisances? Am here still wondering and fantasizing how they had spent their time together happily and peacefully. Or were they pretending to be peaceful yet they were undergoing through hell?
I wonder how a lover can ask for divorce from his/her partner after living together. Me I used to think that living together is understanding each other and accepting each other's weakness. Was I wrong in my thinking, anyway it was just thinking and any thought can run in one's mind. Did they stay for that long just to end this way? But it's okay to divorce than to cause harm or hurt each other. As much as possible avoid violence and hurting one another. But what about the children/kids ? Was it their mistake to be born and see their parents divorcing and disrespecting each other? What about the mental health of those kids?
Still wondering beyond the box, if divorce is the solution. Some partners break up and after like a year they come together again and start living together. Later they start blaming themselves for their reckless mistake of divorce. It's true some issues are un-debatable and require a divorce, also some issues are debatable and can be solved. Problem solving and mistake acceptance are worth qualities to introduce in a relationship.
Is it true that they never cared or did you misunderstand them? Maybe it wasn't as you had thought before. Make a choice not because of influence of anger or joy, make a choice knowing all choices have their consequences. Joy and anger come and end but don't ruin your characters. Avoid much talking during anger, and after anger settles talk about what made you angry ,this will prevent a future reaping of the mistake. Hatred is not the solution, divorcing is not also the solution. The solution is to talk about that mistake and come up with an everlasting solution of never to repeat that mistake ever again.
Don't let the different personalities of different people ruin your relationship. Oh No, just learn how to live and stay with people. Maybe you can't change them at once, but with time they shall change gradually. Avoid gossips and gossiping others ,for this is the main source of hatredness. You shall people who tell you how bad/wicked/playful/cheater he/she is, but don't trust them, for they are just trying to turnish his/her image so that you can divorce.
Stop comparing, for once you start comparing even the little interest that you had get's lost. So it's not advisable to compare, for different people love differently and each person is unique in his/her own ways. A relationship may be strong as metallic bond , but if comparison and untrustworthy gets in it, it weakens and fails.
To lovers it's a great idea for you to appreciate each other. Appreciate the little efforts he/she does for you. See good in each other and don't be envious. The little things matter a lot.
Love is what you need, and he/she needs your assurance that you love her/him. Believe it that's love you felt. Remember hatred/divorce is not the solution.
We wish you all the best
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